Approving your friend request does not give you permission to send me a dick pic.
Sure there are probably LOTS of people who would love to see your penis, but I am not one of them. IF I want to see it, I promise I will use my words and ask for it. IN FACT, I think you should ALWAYS wait for someone to use their words formally asking to see whatever it is you want to show off.
This is not me being prude. It is absurd and ridiculous to blame me for your inappropriate behavior. For those of you that tell me it isn’t a big deal, that it is my problem, and that I should just block them and move on… NO. It is a big deal. I mean the problem… not the penis.
This isn’t really even ABOUT the penis. It’s a body part. I don’t really give a crap if you have one or what it looks like.
What it is about is RESPECT!
What happened to CONSENT?!?!
Society has gotten to the point that we don’t deal with inappropriate behavior. We say things like it’s a free country, it isn’t really hurting anyone, or someone else will deal with it. Or maybe we are too embarrassed to acknowledge the behavior. Important boundaries are being erased and we are letting it happen.
Yesterday I approved a friend request on Facebook and…
Now, this is probably not his real name. What followed his last text was a picture of his schlong. And then a few more DMs asking what I thought of his pride and joy, and saying how much he loved me. I never responded again but instead tagged him on Facebook and wrote this publicly…
Mohamed Bey you should be ashamed of yourself. Find someone else to harass with your unsolicited penis picture.
Approving a friend request is NOT the same as saying please show me your junk. Just no. Stop it!!
I then blocked him.
Why did this particular exchange upset me more than all the other ones? Because I said NO. Not once, but three times.
I blamed myself, and was in fact ashamed, for being raped when I was 18. So maybe I am overly sensitive. NO. Screw that. I am not overly sensitive.
It took two decades to realize that just the word NO should have been respected. It should be one of the most powerful words in the human language. But that word isn’t given the respect it should demand.
I owe the younger generation of men and women (which includes my daughter) more than just a passive block. NO really should be heard, and it really does mean NO. There is no such thing as NO meaning YES.
NO means NO.
If you are confused about this, or are using NO to mean YES, then you are part of the problem. The word NO is very simple. NO should not be a confusing word.