Life is hard.
Just navigating all the necessary bullshit is frustrating enough. I can do without all the unnecessary stuff. Gossip, rumors, competition, backbiting, jealousy…
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to distinguish a person’s real intent just by looking at them?
What happened to authenticity?
Sometimes I feel like asking people to fill out a short questionnaire before they ask for advice. Do you really need help or do you have another motive for contacting me? Do you really like my writing or are you looking for something a bit more lascivious?
Sometimes people contact me because of who I know. After some sweet compliments on my writing they want to know if so and so has a boyfriend, and if I can introduce them. It isn’t that I mind doing that but I do mind the niceties beforehand. Maybe they feel it is polite. Personally, I would rather them get to the point.
For instance, a man contacts me on Facebook and his first word is Hi. I usually ignore a simple Hi unless it is followed up with a request, or a reason for contact. This particular man said Hi several times before he just cut to the chase and said SEX. Well… I respected the communication. I blocked him. But I respected it.
Then you have both men and women who will flirt and participate in an online mating ritual just for show. Attention seekers who play with another person’s emotions for appearance, likes, promotion, or to foster jealousy. Whatever the reason, it isn’t genuine and that always leads to drama and hurt.
It is hard to know who your friends are. I am not talking about all those people on your Facebook or Twitter friends list. I am talking about a friend being someone you have a strong liking for and would put your trust in. I have a small handful of friends.
I know they are friends because they don’t spend time gossiping or cultivating rumors about other people. They are supporting their friends instead of constantly competing with them.
I don’t always get it right. I am not always a good friend. Sometimes I really suck at being a supportive friend. I think it is because I am adverse to becoming an unwitting accomplice to another person’s agenda. I always strive to do the right thing or to give good advice. But it isn’t always so simple.
Life is hard. Just navigating all the necessary bullshit is frustrating enough. We could all do the world a favor by being more genuine.